Sunday, 29 January 2017

How Expectation Can Help You

We are near the end of the first month of 2017. How are you doing on your new year goals?

Previously, I mentioned that goals needed to be SMART, but knowing what keeps you motivated will help you in achieving them. When we set a goal, we are setting expectations. Gretchen Rubin, author of 'Better Than Before', describes two types of expectations: outer and inner.

Outer expectations are those placed on us by others (deadlines, law) and inner expectations are those we place on ourselves (cut back sugar, get out more).

Gretchen also explains, how we all possess one or more of four tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel. - and these are closely linked with how we respond to expectations, and therefore whether we are likely to meet our goals.

Upholders generally respond to both inner and outer expectations.
Questioners question expectations. But if they agree with the expectation, they will follow it.
Obligers can meet outer expectations more easily than inner expectations.
Rebels resist all expectations.

I am an obliger and as such  I have a blog buddy, and I have joined in a word war with a writer friend. This keeps me accountable. And as long as I remember I am an obliger, I can always make my goals work for me.

So, to figure out what type of tendency you have and for advice on how to make it work for you to meet your goals visit the four tendencies quiz page and answer the questions! It takes around 10 minutes, and at the end, you have your answer. You also get the opportunity to download a free report on your tendency. I hope this helps you stick to your goals, and you can be proud of all you have achieved in 2017.

I would love to know if you do the test, and what the outcome is. Feel free to put it in the comments below.


  1. Well I took the quiz! I came out as an Upholder and a rebel! How can that be? Had to smile...and can't possibly make any further comment. Will go away and think about it though...
    I'm making a February plan, but before I do that, I need to check I've managed most of my January goals, or at least started them!

    Have a good productive week - looking forward to hearing more from you soon.

  2. That was interesting and fun, Ingrid! I'm a questioner which won't surprise my family...


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